"Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt." - Abraham Lincoln
"If you can't say something nice, don't say nothin' at all." - Thumper from Bambi
"Therefore all things awhatsoever ye would that bmen should cdo to you, ddo ye even so to them..." - Jesus Christ (Matthew 7:12).
Noticing a theme?
Here are some of the lessons I learned this weekend:
Lesson 1: Relationships are fragile. "Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved." - President Thomas S. Monson
Lesson 2: Once something is said it cannot be unsaid. Much to my dismay.
Lesson 3: Honesty is not always the best policy.
Lesson 4: Just because I (you/we/they) may think or feel something, it does NOT therefore make it true.
Lesson 5: Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you... I've heard this all my life and when not followed the consequences, I can once again attest, are painful.
Lesson 6: Kindness. There is not enough "right" in the world to compensate for not treating others with kindness and love.
What powerful, painful, inspiring, and motivating lessons were learned this weekend.
I hate confrontation. What I hate most is even if I feel/think I am in the right, being 'right' does not feel as good as being kind does. The unkindness that took place, took all the joy out of being 'right'. I can feel/think/BE right all I want but others should not be hurt as a result.
I've repented. I've gone to the source and taken responsibility for my actions and apologized. I felt better initially; but I am on my 3rd night of not being able to sleep. Though I did not directly cause the event which prompted all of these lessons, I added logs and fuel to the fire. A fire which was used to 'torch' someone publicly and cruelly. Someone I didn't think I thought highly of, and intern think much less of myself.
Adam thinks I'm crazy. Maybe it's a guy thing? They don't internalize/analyze/dwell on their actions as much as girls? Sigh. Maybe it's more than guys? Maybe I'm a freak people pleaser that can't stomach the idea of hurting others?
As Mr. Knightly would say: "Badly done
